Appreciate The Little Things

Why do you love music? Because it's the only thing that stays, when everything and everyone is gone? It's easy to ride when everything's perfect but who gone be around when the sun ain't shining anymore? I have amazing people in my life. I need to let them know I appreciate them. If no one else does, I appreciate you. If nothing else, I appreciate you. I appreciate the little things. Even if they’re kinda pointless in your eyes. I can only show you something great, I can't make you appreciate it. You're going to have to learn to appreciate the little things because in reality big things are made up of the small things. The little things are what make the big things incredible, appreciate everything no matter how small or big. Sometimes the little things are big things that seem small because they are obtained and Sometimes at some point you'll have to stop waiting for something big to happen. The little things you see are the big things you keep. Appreciate small gifts, they add up to huge blessings.

Life is so much happier when you learn to appreciate. I don't know how NOT to be happy. I appreciate the little things too much and I just really love people that appreciate the little things.  Think positively, Enjoy life, Appreciate the little things that happen around you everyday. Thankfulness brings contentment. No matter how good or bad I have it; I must wake up each day thankful for my life, because someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Big or small, there's someone out there who wants what you are fortunate to have. There is always something to be thankful for. Always look at what you have, instead of what you have lost. Because it’s not what the world takes away from you that counts; it’s what you do with what you have left. The big things won't happen until you learn how to appreciate.
I've came to learn when you're able to appreciate the little things, big things are just a plus, and from little things big things stem.
Here are a few reminders to help motivate you when you need it most:

1. Everything in life is temporary.
Every time it rains, it stops raining. After darkness there is always light – you are reminded of this every morning, but still you often forget, and instead choose to believe that the night will last forever. It won’t. Nothing lasts forever. Appreciate everything that's good in life while you still have it because when it's gone you'll be pretty bummed you took it for granted. People take others for granted until they're long gone, that's when they miss you and appreciate everything you used to do for them. People never seem to appreciate a good thing when they have it yet they'll miss it when it's gone.
So if things are good right now, enjoy it. It won’t last forever. If things are bad, don’t worry because it won’t last forever either. Just because life isn't easy at the moment, doesn't mean you can’t laugh. Just because something is bothering you, doesn't mean you can’t smile. Every moment gives you a new beginning and a new ending. You get a second chance, every second. You just have to take it and make the best of it.

2. Worrying and complaining changes nothing.
Those who complain the most, accomplish the least. It’s always better to attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeed. It’s not over if you've lost; it’s over when you do nothing but complain about it. If you believe in something, keep trying. Don’t let the shadows of the past darken the doorstep of your future. Spending today complaining about yesterday won’t make tomorrow any brighter. Take action instead. Let what you've learned improve how you live. Make a change and never look back. Appreciate what someone else is doing for you instead of complaining about what they aren't doing. Regardless of what happens in the long run, remember that true happiness begins to arrive only when you stop complaining about your problems and you start being grateful for all the problems you don’t have.
True strength comes when you have so much to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and appreciate your life instead. There are blessings hidden in every struggle you face, but you have to be willing to open your heart and mind to see them. You can’t force things to happen. You can only drive yourself crazy trying. At some point you have to let go and let what’s meant to be, BE.
In the end, loving your life is about trusting your intuition, taking chances, losing and finding happiness, cherishing the memories, and learning through experience. It’s a long-term journey. You have to stop worrying, wondering, and doubting every step of the way. Laugh at the confusion, live consciously in the moment, and enjoy your life as it unfolds. You might not end up exactly where you intended to go, but you will eventually arrive precisely where you need to be.

3. Every little struggle is a step forward.
In life, patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard on your dreams, knowing that the work is worth it. So if you’re going to try, put in the time and go all the way. Otherwise, there’s no point in starting. It could mean sacrificing relationships and all that’s familiar. It could mean accepting ridicule from your peers. It could mean lots of time alone in solitude. Solitude, though, is the gift that makes great things possible. It gives you the space you need. Everything else is a test of your determination, of how much you really want it. If you want it, you’ll do it, despite failure and rejection and the odds. And every step will feel better than anything else you can imagine. You will realize that the struggle is not found on the path, it is the path. And it’s worth it. So if you’re going to try, go all the way. There’s no better feeling in the world… there’s no better feeling than knowing what it means to be ALIVE.

4. Other people’s negativity is not your problem.
Be positive when negativity surrounds you. Smile when others try to bring you down. It’s an easy way to maintain your enthusiasm and focus. When other people treat you poorly, keep being you. Don’t ever let someone else’s bitterness change the person you are. You can’t take things too personally, even if it seems personal. Rarely do people do things because of you. They do things because of them.
Above all, don’t ever change just to impress someone who says you’re not good enough. Change because it makes you a better person and leads you to a brighter future. People are going to talk regardless of what you do or how well you do it. So worry about yourself before you worry about what others think. If you believe strongly in something, don’t be afraid to fight for it. Great strength comes from overcoming what others think is impossible.

5. The best thing you can do is to keep going.
Don’t be afraid to get back up – to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again. Don’t let a hard lesson harden your heart. Life’s best lessons are often learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t. When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right. Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to arrive at your best.
Yes, life is tough, but you are tougher. Find the strength to laugh every day. Find the courage to feel different, yet beautiful. Find it in your heart to make others smile too. Don’t stress over things you can’t change. Live simply. Love generously. Speak truthfully. Work diligently. And even if you fall short, keep going. Keep growing.
All jokes aside, your life only comes around once. So do what makes you happy and be with whoever makes you smile, often. Think positively. Eat healthy. Exercise today. Worry less. Laugh often. Sleep well. Repeat…

Awake every morning and do your best.

                        ...I'm Out

The Only Thing Holding You Back

Excuses are the only thing holding you back. Stop making excuses and take chances. Excuses will keep you from your destiny. You can make progress or you can make excuses, but you can't do both. You can have RESULTS or excuses NOT BOTH... I’m not above the excuses either. I catch myself making them sometimes too. But that’s the key – we have to catch ourselves before our excuses become hopeless regrets. If you really want something, you will find a way. If you don’t, you will find an excuse… and then you will live with that excuse every day of your life.

Over the years, likely without your conscious knowledge, you have adopted self-limiting beliefs that are quietly sabotaging your best efforts for personal growth. So let this be your wake-up call. Stop making excuses for why you can’t get it done and start focusing on all the reasons why you must make it happen. NO more negativity. NO more laziness. NO more blaming others. NO more “I’ll do it tomorrows.” Too cold . Too early. My legs hurt. I'm tired. NO more of these excuses:

1. “It’s too late.” – It’s never too late to live a life that makes you proud. If you don’t learn anything else from this post, learn that. We get one shot at this. There’s no age limit on changing your course, and to settle in and be stuck in a life that isn't authentic is a tragic waste. Honestly, it’s never too late or too early to be who you are capable of being. There’s no time limit – you can simply start and stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same. You can make the best or the worst of it. It’s up to you, so make the best of it. Do things that startle you. Spend time with people who help you grow. Live a life you’re proud of. And if you find that you’re not, have the courage to make a change.

2. “I’m not good enough yet.” – Nonsense! Do your best and don’t be afraid to make mistakes. If you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, and changing the world for the better. We can’t make anything valuable without making mistakes. Not a painting, not a relationship, not a career, not a life. If you wait until you have it all figured out to try, you will be waiting forever.

3. “I need approval first.” – Don’t be scared to step out of line. It’s OK to go off the beaten path, as long as you know why going a different way is right for you. Some people may resent the freedom that you create in your life when you choose to be true to yourself. If you come across these people, ignore them and carry on. Only when you require no approval from outside yourself can you own yourself. If you’re being true to yourself and it isn't enough for the people around you, change the people around you .

4. “I don’t want to be judged.” – Most people are judging you far less than it seems. The truth is, while you’re busy worrying about what others think of you, they’re busy worrying about what you think of them. Crazy? Yes, but true. The good news is this knowledge instantly frees you to let loose and do more of what YOU want. And while doing so, you’ll also liberate others to do the same.

5. “I don’t deserve it.” – There are two versions of this excuse. The first makes you think that you are not worthy of something beautiful like love, respect, success and so forth. The second makes you feel that you are unfairly targeted by life’s difficulties. Either way, this excuse ties you up and holds you down. It’s time to let this one go! When you catch yourself wondering “Why me?”, ask “Why not me?” Remember, in the grand scheme of things, you are just the same as everyone else; neither nature, nor God, displays unfairness.

6. “I have way too much to lose.” – In the end, you will not regret the things you have done nearly as much as the things you have left undone. It’s always better to be left with a few “oh wells,” than a bunch of “what ifs.” Someday you will want to look back at your life and say, “I can’t believe I did that!” instead of, “Gosh, I wish I would have…”

7. “There’s just no point.” – Not with that attitude there isn't. A statement like this is self-defeat at its worst, and yet I hear it so often. Snap out of it! There is a point… The point is you’re helping yourself and others. The point is you’re doing something positive. The point is you’re taking action and trying. The point is you’re not living in premature self-defeat. You are taking your own ideas from concept to actualization. You’re bringing value to the world. Even if no one sees it, you can have the satisfaction of knowing you did the best you could.

8. “It’s too hard.” – Almost everything worth doing is hard. Think about it. When was the last time “easy” had a huge payoff for you? In life, the hardest thing and the right thing are often the same thing. You can’t underestimate a person who always works hard. Be that person. Because you don’t get what you wish for; you get what you work for.

9. “I’m unlucky.” – Not true. Other people are NOT more lucky than you. Pure luck is a myth. If someone is “lucky” they are doing stuff behind the scenes you’re not seeing. Taking action and simply doing something instead of making excuses will do wonders for your “luck.” Ultimately, luck happens when preparation meets opportunity.

10. “It wasn't supposed to be like this to begin with.” – When we resist reality, we are imprisoned by it. Period. The secret to happiness and peace is letting every situation be what it is, instead of what you think it should be, and making the best of it. Over time you will find that life isn't necessarily any easier or harder than you thought it was going to be; it’s just that the easy and the hard aren't exactly the way you had anticipated, and don’t always occur when you expect them to. This isn't a bad thing; it makes life interesting. With a positive attitude you will almost always be pleasantly surprised.

11. “It’s out of my control.” – You cannot control everything that happens to you; you can only control the way you respond to what happens. In your response is your power. Discipline is what you must have to resist the lure of excuses

12. “I can’t commit right now.” – Fair enough, you have a lot on your plate. But when can you commit? Don’t use this excuse to push something aside forever. If it’s genuinely interesting, look at your calendar and ask “When can I commit?” and put yourself on a productive path. And if you don’t want to do it, be honest and admit you’re not interested. People will always respect honesty over being strung along. And you will feel less stressed with unnecessary obligations too.

13. “I’m comfortable right now.” – The most common and harmful addiction in the world is the draw of comfort. Why pursue greatness when you've already got 324 channels and a recliner? Just pass the chip dip and forget about your grand plans. NO! The truth is, growth begins at the end of your comfort zone.

14. “No one understands me.” – Everyone has their own life to worry about; everybody is busy. At the end of the day, no one has the time or energy to figure anyone else out. If it really matters to you that someone understands you, simply communicate and make it easy for them to do so. Quit playing games and beating around the bush. Say what you mean and mean what you say. (And remember that it’s not necessary that everyone understands and agrees with you all the time.) Forget about everyone else for a moment. Care about something because it’s important. Take a stand. If you truly care, then become a champion of the cause and help others understand why you care so much, whether they agree with you or not.

15. “I've already lost too much.” – The truth is, everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end. We've all gone through some hard times, and you, personally, will likely go through more hard times in the future too. But it’s worth it. It builds character and teaches necessary lessons. I can trace some of the best stuff in my life right now to things that were really hard when I was going through them. So when things seem like they are impossible, or you feel like you are never going to feel better, just know that you will eventually look back in amazement at how far you have come. Yes, it’s going to be okay.

16. “I can’t go on without those who are gone.” – This final point is indeed a tough one. You have to remember, though, if someone comes into your life and has a positive impact on you, but for some reason they can’t stay, it doesn't make sense to mourn forever. Instead, be thankful that your paths crossed and that they somehow made you happy, even if it was just for a short while. Life is change. People really do come and go. Some come back, some don’t, and that’s okay. And just because one person leaves, doesn't mean you should forget about everyone else who’s still standing by your side. You have too much baggage from y our past? There comes a time when you have to choose between turning the page and closing the book. Some stories need to end before new ones can begin. Life is too short to spend at war with yourself. Practice acceptance and forgiveness. Letting go of the past is your first step to happiness today.

The next time you decide to make your neat life and clean up your space, start with your intellectual space by clearing out the old excuses and negative self-talk you often recite to yourself. God has equipped you to do what He's called you to do. Don't make excuses. Excuses can keep you from your destiny. When we stop making excuses, we free ourselves to start making improvements

Winners make goals, losers make excuses.

             Live with no excuses and love with no regrets.

I’m Out.

Love Yourself Enough To Have Standards

It's OK to have standards. Have you ever really thought about the effect that your personal standards have on your quality of life? Your standards play a critical role in determining the quality of every area of your life. If you routinely have a messy home, it’s because you have a standard that says a messy home is acceptable. If you would never even consider doing drugs, it’s because you have a standard against it. You have standards that determine the quality of the work you do, your personal hygiene, how you treat people, whether you are always late or on time, and pretty much any other area you can think of.

While I'm not one to advocate many personal development hacks, there is one "hack" that I think everyone should use: have high standards for yourself. Having high personal standards will almost immediately force personal growth, and will help you live up to your potential day after day.

Successful businesses, and for that matter successful people, succeed because they set high standards for themselves. If your standards are set to accept an average life, average is the best you can hope for.

It seems like every single wildly successful transformational / motivational/spiritual speaker/author I've ever encountered has a story to tell about the awful time in their lives when they were homeless, sleeping in an alley/bus-stop/car. They were drunk, disorderly, abused and rejected, or sober but fat, sick and utterly despondent.

They describe this moment as a time when their lives were so broken, there genuinely appeared no farther to fall. The next stop on their journey into the dark abyss was surely death … in fact, in their stories, something always does seem to die in their car, on the doorsteps of the homes they were just evicted from: their former selves who embraced extremely low standards – or no standards – for their lives. That low-standard self has to die in the fire of transformation so a new self can be born, one with the fierce determination to say, “No more! My life is bullsh*t! I now insist on entirely new standards for myself!”

Fortunately, you don’t have to be homeless to experience authentic transformation. You don’t have to lose your family and sleep in the bus station to get that the life you've been living isn't working and begin creating real change. You might have to experience being destitute in spirit, however, in the sense that you've finally and completely lost all hope that your current life strategies will ever work to make you authentically happy.
It's also really simple to execute.

• Be Ruthless With Yourself

Although you enjoy improving yourself (mentally, physically, whatever), you probably view yourself as a work in progress. As such, you may not think very highly of yourself.

• Develop High Standards

If you've never formally listed what your personal goals are, you should take a few minutes to do so now.

• Respect Yourself

Once you've clearly defined the person you want to become, working towards your ideal self becomes that much easier. Respect yourself for striving to reach difficult goals, and think highly of yourself as you work to better yourself. Having respect for yourself makes it easier for you to make difficult decisions. We're all defined by our actions, and those of us who have precise, measurable goals and a sufficient quantity of self-respect can more easily make the tough decisions that either push us forward or pull us back.

Set high standards, ruthlessly pursue your goals, and respect yourself.

Your personal standards are also reflected in the promises you keep, in the way you dress and manage your life, finances and environment. They are also reflected in the quality of your work, values and communication. In fact, everything you do and say gives others an indication of the personal standards you live by.

It is said that first impressions count. Well, within 30 seconds of meeting someone they will look at the way you dress, listen to the way you communicate, and tune-in to other signals that subconsciously provide them with an indication of the types of standards you uphold. If they sense that you live with low standards, then they will judge you accordingly. On the other hand if they sense that you hold high standards, then you are more likely to win their respect and admiration in those 30 seconds.

Because your personal standards are reflected in so many areas of your life and in so many different ways, they are therefore always ‘on show’ for other people. You are therefore always sending messages about how you feel about yourself, about others, and about your life, whether you’re consciously aware of it or not. You are also always being judged by other people based on those messages.

In order to achieve a goal you need to live your life a certain way. You may for instance need to discipline yourself to keep your environment in order; to improve the quality of your work; to eat healthier meals; to curb your spending habits, etc. Every goal you set requires something from you. No matter what that is you must meet these requirements in order to have this goal in your life. The requirements must be met in the form of the personal standards you keep and live by.

If you feel that your personal standards are not at a level they should be to achieve your goals, then you will find the following process of some value. This five step process will help raise your personal standards.

1. Gain Clarity
Your first step is to clarify what it is exactly you want to achieve. It’s after all impossible to set standards if you don’t know what it is you want. Ask yourself:

2. Analyze Your Reality

Your second step is to analyze your current and desired reality. Your current reality is the life you are living at this very moment. Consider what kind of life this really is and the types of behaviors that define your actions and results in the present moment. Ask yourself:

What standards do I currently live by?

What standards do I have for myself in various situations?

What standards do I have for the roles I play in my life?

Within every role you partake in there will be a set of standards that you will uphold and a set of expectations that you will have of yourself and of others. Consider this for a moment, and then ask yourself:

Are these standards mine?

Are my current standards preventing me from doing my very best in these areas of my life?

Consider your goals and the roles you play. Now honestly ask yourself whether or not you are doing your very best in all these areas of your life. If the answer is “yes” then there really isn't much that you can change by yourself. However, you may want to gain more knowledge or simply ask for help in areas of your life where you are struggling most.

3. Find Inspiring Mentors

Your next step is to find appropriate mentors. These will be people who are currently living to the highest of standards in specific life areas that you are wanting to focus on. The purpose here is to use them as inspiration to help you raise your own personal standards.

Go out there and find mentors for each and every area of your life where you seek improvement and growth. Your mentors will provide you with the insights you’re looking for to help you achieve your goals.

4. Set Clear Standards

In other words, you must identify a set of standards you will follow. These standards effectively become the rules you live by.

5. Utilize the Pain and Pleasure Principle

The final step of this process is to utilize the pain and pleasure principle to help instill the motivation you need to follow through with these rituals, and subsequently live your life in accordance with your higher personal standards.

At times things might just be progressing a little too slowly for your liking. You've raised your standards; however they are just not high enough to make a significant difference to your life. In such instances, take a chance on yourself and shoot for the stars.

Comparing your personal standards with other people’s standards is a dangerous game. Remember that most people have very low standards and expectations of themselves, and that is why most people live a mediocre existence. Comparing yourself with the way they live their life; with their standards; with their norms, is often not going to get you to your desired destination.

Society as a whole is the domain of the masses. And the masses lead an average existence. If you have higher aspirations for yourself, then you cannot compare yourself to the masses. You must instead look at ways you can separate yourself from the masses. However, having said that, making comparisons with others is rarely helpful.

Instead of comparing yourself with others, compare yourself with your personal best. The only comparisons you should be making is to past versions of yourself. When you consistently meet certain standards of performance, keep setting ever higher standards for yourself, so that you always have something to strive for that’s slightly out of your reach. like.. This may be surprising, but you can not do what you want to do and still be saved. God Himself has standards. Satans's goal is to make you feel like God's standards are impossible to keep. Romans12:2 Do not conform yourselves to the standards of this world, but let God transform you inwardly by a complete change of your mind. Then you will be able to know the will of God - what is good and is pleasing to him and is perfect.

When you expect God to complete you and not man, you have higher standards and make better decisions. 

...Enter no situation without a goal in mind.

                 Go get some standards.

                                              I’m out

22 Questions To Ask Yourself

It’s the simple questions you ask yourself on a daily basis that will determine the type of person you become in the long run. That’s precisely why I wrote today’s blog – to help you embark on a positive journey of self-inquiry.

Keep in mind that these questions have no right or wrong answers...

1. How old would you be if you didn't know how old you are?

2. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?

3. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?

4. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?

5. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?

6. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?

7. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?

8. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?

9. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?

10. Why are you, you?

11. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?

12. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?

13. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now?

14. If not now, then when?

15. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?

16. Do you feel like you've lived this day a hundred times before?

17. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?

18. When it is time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?

19. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

20. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?21. What do you love? Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?

22. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday? What about the day before that? Or the day before that?

Successful people create and pursue SMART goals

Over the years I've studied the lives of numerous successful people. I've read their books, watched their interviews, researched them online, etc. I've always been fascinated by people who are consistently successful at what they do; especially those who experience repeated success in many areas of their life throughout their lifetime.And I've learned that most of them were not born into success; they simply did, and continue to do, things that help them realize their full potential. We all have our own examples of super successful people like these who we admire. But how do they do it?

They create and pursue S.M.A.R.T. goals.
Successful people are objective. They have realistic targets in mind. They know what they are looking for and why they are fighting for it. Successful people create and pursue S.M.A.R.T. goals.

S.M.A.R.T. goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely. Let’s briefly review each:

• Specific – A general goal would be, “Get in shape.” But a related specific goal would be, “Join a health club and workout 3 days a week for the next 52 weeks.” A specific goal has a far greater chance of being accomplished because it has defined parameters and constraints.

• Measurable – There must be a logical system for measuring the progress of a goal. To determine if your goal is measurable, ask yourself questions like: How much time? How many total? How will I know when the goal is accomplished? etc. When you measure your progress, you stay on track, reach your target dates, and experience the exhilaration of achievement that spurs you on to continued efforts required to reach your goal.

• Attainable – To be attainable, a goal must represent an objective toward which you are both willing and able to work. In other words, the goal must be realistic. The big question here is: How can the goal be accomplished?

• Relevant – Relevance stresses the importance of choosing goals that matter. For example, an internet entrepreneur’s goal to “Make 75 tuna sandwiches by 2:00PM.” may be Specific, Measurable, Attainable, and Timely, but lacks Relevance to an entrepreneurs overarching objective of building a profitable online business.

• Timely – A goal must be grounded within a time frame, giving the goal a target date. A commitment to a deadline helps you focus your efforts on the completion of the goal on or before the due date. This part of the S.M.A.R.T. goal criteria is intended to prevent goals from being overtaken by daily distractions.

When you identify S.M.A.R.T. goals that are truly important to you, you become motivated to figure out ways to attain them. You develop the necessary attitude, abilities, and skills. You can achieve almost any goal you set if you plan your steps wisely and establish a time frame that allows you to carry out those steps. Goals that once seemed far away and out of reach eventually move closer and become attainable, not because your goals shrink, but because you grow and expand to match them.

#NoBraDay

Okay, I absolutely couldn't resist writing at least a quick blog about this one. I missed out on writing for Thanksgiving Day, but a day without bras?  Yeah. Well, It's not all about boobs...Boobs are nice, but the older I get, the more I realize it's not always really all about boobs.

Just a gentle reminder:  #NoBraDay means Not Wearing Bra. It doesn't mean showing us your nude boobs. #NoBraDay doesn't mean you post your boobs without bra, girls. You can kindly tuck your boobs back in your shirt pls. I know its #NoBraDay but that doesn't mean you need to take a selfie to show your boobish all over the world. Big difference between #NoBraDay and #BareBoobsDay. Y'all seem to have it confused. #NoBraDay does not mean being topless.

I know once you put them on, bras just aren't all that comfortable, especially if you have actual breasts. (You size A cups may feel free to leave the post now, since you likely won't have a clue what I'm talking about.) But for any woman that is blessed/cursed with wearing a bra, this day is for you! NO BRA DAY! Embrace it! Walk around without your boobies confined! Revolt against the confines of your bosom prison!

 Ladies, #NoBraDay doesn't mean #NoBrainDay. Posting nude pics of yourselves is simply brainless of you. 13 Oct is No BRA Day not #NoClothesDay. An annual “holiday” that encourages women to set the "girls" free in "support" of October's National Breast Cancer Awareness Month. For the third year in a row, women everywhere are being encouraged to take off their brassieres and let their breasts "free" for the day.  While the occasion may be liberating (and so much more comfortable) for some women, the event is not without controversy. In fact, some find the event quite offensive. But No Bra Day helps raise awareness about a very important cause - breast cancer.

Men may feel left out on this day devoted to bra-lessness, but keep in mind that any male can participate simply by wearing purple. Rock a purple anything and show some support for the women in your life, all of whom should be rocking out with their breasts out. Women who simply must wear a bra can do the same, and wear something purple too.

Breast cancer is the second leading cause of cancer deaths. Despite the many advances in cancer treatment and great progress over the years, the cause of breast cancer is still unknown. According to the National Cancer Institute, it is estimated that more than 230,000 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer this year and 40,000 will die. But many do survive breast cancer. In fact, 89 percent survived five or more years after being diagnosed between 2004 and 2010. Finding cancer early by regular self-exams and mammograms can save your life. Know the known risks and talk to your doctor about scheduling a mammogram. The best way to fight breast cancer is to have a plan that helps you detect the disease in its early stages.

National Breast Cancer Awareness Month helps raise awareness and supports breast cancer research, but also honors those who have lost the fight. Whether Or Not You Plan To Participate In No Bra Day By Going Braless On Oct. 13, The Fight Against Cancer Continues.

19 Things Everyone Should Know How To Do

Self-reliance is the only road to true freedom, and being one's own person is its ultimate reward. Self-reliance is a vital key to living a healthy, productive life. To be self-reliant one must master a basic set of skills, more or less making them a jack of all trades. Self reliance is one of the greatest tool one can possess.Here is a list of 19 things everyone should know how to do.

1. Perform Basic First Aid / CPR– You don’t have to be a doctor, or genius, to properly dress a wound. Someday it may be your wife, husband, son or daughter that needs help.

2. Operate a Computer and Implement Basic Computer Security Best Practices – You don’t have to be a computer science major to understand the fundamentals of creating complex passwords and using firewalls. Doing so will surely save you a lot of grief someday. Fundamental computer knowledge is essential these days.
3. Drive a Manual Transmission Vehicle – There will come a time when you’ll be stuck without this knowledge. Learn How to Change a Tire. Because tires have air in them, and things with air in them eventually pop.
4. Do Basic Cooking – If you can’t cook your own steak and eggs, you probably aren't going to make it.

5. Tell a Story that Captivates People’s Attention – If you can’t captivate their attention, you should probably just save your breath.

6. Handle a Job Interview – I promise, sweating yourself into a nervous panic won’t land you the job.
7. Manage Time – Not doing so is called wasting time, which is okay sometimes, but not all the time.
8. Swim – 71% of the Earth’s surface is covered by water. Learning to swim might be a good idea.
9. Speak at Least Two Common Languages – Only about 25% of the world’s population speaks English. It would be nice if you could communicate with at least some of the remaining 75%.
10. Give a Compliment – It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give someone, and it’s free.
11. Negotiate – The better deal is only a question or two away.
12. Listen Carefully to Others – The more you listen and the less you talk, the more you will learn and the less you will miss.
13. Make a Short, Informative Public Speech – At the next company meeting if your boss asks you to explain what you've been working on over the last month, a short, clear, informative response is surely your best bet.
14. Smile for the Camera – People that absolutely refuse to smile for the camera suck!

15.Win or Avoid a Fistfight – Either way, you win.

16. Make a Good First Impression – “well begun is half done.”

17. Detect a Lie – People will lie to you. It’s a sad fact of life.

18. Keep a Clean House – A clean house is the foundation for a clean, organized lifestyle.

19. Hold a Baby – Trust me, injuring a baby is not what you want to do.

Things You Should Stop Expecting from Others

We create our own failure when we start expecting too much from others.Don't be mad at others for disappointing you, be mad at yourself for expecting too much from them.People rarely behave exactly the way you want them to. Hope for the best, but expect less. And remember, the magnitude of your happiness will be directly proportional to your thoughts and how you choose to think about things. The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations. This is especially true when it comes to our relationships and interactions with others.
Tempering your expectations of other people will greatly reduce unnecessary frustration and suffering, in both your life and theirs, and help you refocus on the things that truly matter.
Which means it’s time to…
1. Stop expecting them to respect you more than you respect yourself.
True strength is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles. It’s about having faith and trust in who you are, and a willingness to act upon it. Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself.
Today, look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you, and from now on I’m going to act like it.” It’s important to be nice to others, but it’s even more important to be nice to yourself. When you practice self-love and self-respect, you give yourself the opportunity to be happy. When you are happy, you become a better friend, a better family member, and a better YOU.

2. Stop expecting (and needing) them to like you.
You might feel unwanted and unworthy to one person, but you are priceless to another. Don’t ever forget your worth. Spend time with those who value you. No matter how good you are to people, there will always be one negative person who criticizes you. Smile, ignore them, and carry on.
In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, the toughest battle you’ll ever have to fight is the battle to be yourself. And as you’re fighting back, not everyone will like you. Sometimes people will call you names because you’re “different.” But that’s perfectly OK. The things that make you different are the things that make YOU, and the right people will love you for it.

3. Stop expecting them to fit your idea of who they are.
Loving and respecting others means allowing them to be themselves. When you stop expecting people to be a certain way, you can begin to appreciate THEM.
Pay close attention, and respect people for who they are and not for who you want them to be. We don’t know most people half as well as we believe we do; and truly knowing someone is a big part of what makes them wonderful. Every human being is remarkable and beautiful; it just takes a patient set of eyes to see it. The more you get to know someone, the more you will be able to look beyond their appearance and see the beauty of who they truly are.

4. Stop expecting them to know what you’re thinking.
People can’t read minds. They will never know how you feel unless you tell them. Your boss? Yeah, he doesn't know you’re hoping for a promotion because you haven’t told him yet. That cute guy you haven’t talked to because you’re too shy? Yeah, you guessed it, he hasn't given you the time of day simply because you haven’t given him the time of day either.
In life, you have to communicate with others regularly and effectively. And often, you have to open your vocal cords and speak the first words. You have to tell people what you’re thinking. It’s as simple as that.

5. Stop expecting them to suddenly change.
If there’s a specific behavior someone you care about has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t. If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows how you feel and what you need them to do.
For the most part though, you can’t change people and you shouldn't try. Either you accept who they are or you choose to live without them. It’s might sound harsh, but it’s not. When you try to change people, they often remain the same, but when you don’t try to change them – when you support them and allow them the freedom to be as they are – they gradually change in the most beautiful way. Because what really changes is the way you see them. Stop expecting them to be “OK.”Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle, just like you. Every smile or sign of strength hides an inner struggle every bit as complex and extraordinary as your own. Remember that embracing your light doesn't mean ignoring your dark. Supporting, sharing and making contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards. This happens naturally if we allow it, because we all share very similar dreams, needs and struggles. Once we accept this, the world then is a place where we can look someone else in the eye and say, “I’m lost and struggling at the moment,” and they can nod and say, “Me too,” and that’s OK. Because not being “OK” all the time, is perfectly OK.

7 Reasons You’re Stuck Where You Are

Every new day is another chance to change something in your life. Every new day is a chance to feel blessed for what you have. NOT making a decision to change your life Is ultimately a decision to keep it the same... Life is change; it is forever moving. Staying stuck is a choice.
For it is a choice, not a chance, that determines your destiny. If you don’t like the way your life is at the moment, you have the choice to change it. Actually, you owe it to yourself to change it. But you can only shift your current situation one small step at a time.

To get through even the most difficult times and circumstances you need to take baby steps, and you must keep on stepping. So if you feel stuck right now, it means you aren't stepping. And it’s probably because…

1. You haven’t taken responsibility for your circumstances. – Too many people have a habit of blaming their circumstances or mistakes on bad fate or bad luck. Too few will admit that their situation is a direct outcome of the choices they've made. In life, this is the foundation you need to correct in order to grow. You must accept your current situation, take responsibility for it, learn from it, make the necessary changes, and move forward.

2. You continue to ignore your calling. – What you seek, whether you realize it or not, is the actual feeling of being ALIVE. You don’t have to satisfy everyone else. You just have to find something to believe in – something that anchors you and keeps you looking forward, regardless of what others are doing or saying. For it is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else’s life with perfection.

3. You've become accustomed to negativity. – It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see. The biggest wall you must climb is the one you have built in your mind. If you don’t control your attitude, then it will control you. Negative feelings are like weeds; if you don’t fully extract their roots, they will keep coming back. So take control of your destiny. Believe in yourself. Ignore those who try to discourage you. Avoid negative people, places, things, and habits. Don’t give up, and don’t give in to consuming the garbage these negative sources are trying to feed you .

4. You don’t appreciate what you have. – Pause for a moment. Breathe in slowly and deeply. Exhale. Feel the miracle of your breath. And say, “Thank you.” You probably woke up with a few aches and pains this morning, but you woke up. You've seen better days, but you've also seen worse. You might not have everything you want right now, but you have everything you need to move forward. Life isn't perfect, but it sure is good.

5. You keep looking for happiness outside yourself. – Enlightenment is not the accumulation of knowledge; it is the full realization of who you already are. True wealth has nothing to do with material possessions; it is the surrender to an abundance that has no limit. What you seek is not somewhere else at some other time; what you seek is here and now, within you. The more you look for it outside yourself, the more it hides from you. Relax, remember the source of your deepest desires, and allow yourself to know their fulfillment.

6. You’re still looking for the easy road. – Someday you will look back on your life and realize that everything worthwhile you've ever accomplished initially challenged you. And that is as it should be, because big challenges often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary success. Every struggle arises for a reason – for experience or a lesson. A great journey is never easy, and no dose of adversity along the way is ever a waste of time if you learn and grow from it.

7. You need to let go and move on. – One of the happiest moments in life is when you find the courage to let go of what you can't change. Sometimes being strong and moving on are the only choices you have. There are some things in life that you may never completely get over. The best you may be able to do is get through them slowly. But that’s okay. The struggle forward is worth the effort. There’s still a lot of beauty left to be seen on the road ahead.

5 Relationship Tips Everyone Forgets

Healthy relationships are accomplishments. Relationships take commitment and work, and two people who are willing to meet in the middle and put in the necessary effort.

If you’re in a relationship, intimate or platonic, that could use a little help, the tips below will come in handy…

• Communicate Effectively

You've heard it a million times; Communication is the MOST important thing when dealing with people in general, but especially relationships. Females and males alike tend to believe the other is a mind reader a lot of the time. This is never the case. Sure they may be able to predict actions/reactions based off of their prior knowledge, but they can't know how you FEEL about something unless you speak the fuck up. If her breathe stinks all the time, let her know that's a problem for you. Also if you can’t say it to their face, you shouldn't say it behind their back. If you don’t know, ask. If you don’t agree, say so. If you don’t like it, speak up. But never judge people behind their back.

• Let go of old wounds through forgiveness.
Every moment of your life you are either growing or dying. The art of maintaining happiness in your life and relationships relies on the fine balancing act of holding on and letting go. Yes, sometimes people you trust (including yourself) will hurt you. Being hurt is something you can’t avoid, but being continuously miserable is always a choice. Forgiveness is the remedy. You have to let go of what’s behind you before you can grasp the goodness in front of you.


• Don't waste someone's time

A lotta people are floating around aimlessly waiting for someone better to come along while stringing together lies about feelings to the person they're currently dating. The other person will almost ALWAYS figure it out and get hurt. Then you create trust issues amongst good people who will then go on to continue the vicious cycle you started. Just be up front. If you just want to have sex someone with no strings, LET IT BE KNOWN. If You Want Something Serious, Same Thing, Let It Be Known!

• Come clean when you make a mistake.

An honest heart is the beginning of everything that is right with this world. The most honorable people of all are not those who never make mistakes, but those who admit to them when they do, and then go on and do their best to right the wrongs they've made. In the end, being honest might not always win you a lot of friends and lovers, but it will always keep the right ones in your life.

• Title it up

Sorry fellas, but titles are necessary for most women. I’d say Titles are so overrated, But sometimes titles are necessary. Yes, titles are 'assuring', if you getting serious with someone titles are inevitable and necessary. If you're together, she has to be the ONLY one. There CAN'T be anyone else.

Well, for me I don't think titles are that necessary but I want people to know I’m yours and that you're mine.

I could go on and on but I'll just leave it there today. Stay classy my friends

I'm out

What and Who is a "H O E"

Ok, I'm really just here to kick the knowledge from MY point of view on the matter. 

First line of business is the definition of a hoe. A hoe, from what I've gathered and witnessed, is an individual who will have sex with whoever, wherever, whenever. The term is not gender specific; however females are more commonly quick to be labeled one. Let the definition sink in though....The girl who fucked your man twice without your knowledge is not technically a hoe. Sorry, but find another name to call her until you get facts. 

Females are quick to label their peers "hoes" as a generic term when they find out they had sex with more than like 3 people. At least in my opinion. If a brother genuinely likes 5 females and he ends up having sex with all 5 does that make me a hoe? I hope not, because he is defni- never mind.

There are some actions that can make one a hoe though. One of my colleagues (not gonna expose) had their significant other cheat on them. They then preceded to "Revenge Fuck" at least 4 people. That is a prime example of a HOE in my eyes. If your motive is anything involving hurting another person, or getting someone back, or proving something to someone THAT right there is a red flag.

I've done some extensive research and can confirm that these facts are facts that make sense.

· If you surround yourself with hoes. Then in my defense, you are a hoe and If you're a hoe at least be a proud one. Hoes in denial are the worst. Chances are people already know anyway.

· She’s a hoe if her pockets are longer than her shorts.

· If you're having an affair with someone who has a wife or girlfriend you are a hoe.

· If you feel like a hoe.. Chances are you are one.

· You are a hoe if you text and flirt with other dudes because you're mad at your boyfriend.

· If you think smoking is attractive, you're a hoe.

· If your best friend's a hoe, you are too.

· Men If your girl dresses like a hoe, flirts like a hoe, and is sketchy like a hoe, chances are you got yourself a hoe.

· You a hoe if you think good guys are a sign of weakness.

· In all disrespect if you under 21 and got more than 4 bodies you are a hoe.

· If you have to announce to people that you aint a hoe, you are in fact a hoe.

· If I can Google your name and half naked pictures come up YOU ARE A HOE!

· If you cheat on a faithful girl for a hoe then you really are retarded in the head YOU ARE A HOE!!!!

· If you're a hoe when you are drunk you are a hoe when you're sober too. These are facts of life.

· If you act like a hoe. Chances are your gonna get treated like one. Don't be surprised when you can't find a good respectful guy.

· Girl, if your body count is over 5 Guys, then you are a Hoe!

· Tongue piercings are the tackiest ever if you have one you're a hoe.

· If you're trying to get the attention of a taken man, then you are a hoe.

· You are a hoe if you get naked for twitter.. My opinion.

· If you get pregnant and your friend ask "By who?" you are a 3rd degree black belt hoe.

· You are a hoe if you are on birth control and you don't have a man.

· Ladies look down at your toes...if there's a ring on it...chances are, you a hoe.

· Studies show that if you act like a hoe, you are a hoe, if you act like a hoe why are you mad people treat you like one?

On the flip side of things I'd advise you not to live your life afraid of being accused of being a hoe. Fellas, how many times have you been on the brink of closing in on the box then get with "Nah let's wait I don't want to be considered a hoe. Well, and if you're worried about what people say or think about you, there are bigger problems at hand. We all know who will go to hell — Liars, cheaters, the hoes that's still hoeing, and fakes.

I'm by NO MEANS saying go fuck everybody that looks good. I'm just saying we should probably all cool it with the judgment. It’s about someone else's journey. WORRY ABOUT WHO YOU'RE.

          I'm out. 

If you disagree with what I've stated. Well, I did my research now do yours.

                            I'm out.

What Your Favorite Ice Cream Flavor Says About You

Butter Pecan
You’re a little old fashioned and maybe a little conservative. You’re a hard worker who is detail-oriented at work and in your social life. You’re very respectful to your date. So while you are kind of conservative, you also are a decadent person. Sure, you can be all business. But when you’re ready to unwind, you unwind with the best of them.






Chocolate
You get bored easily and don’t have a filter; you will tell people you are bored. Or that you don’t like them. Or that you aren't having fun on your date. At least you’re honest. And when you do find someone, you’ll be really happy. You’re also really creative and talented, though, and very enthusiastic.

Neapolitan
Make up your mind! You have a trouble making decisions. You’re also kind of immature and like people to baby you.

Chocolate Chip
You’re all about fun. You’re into sports and like to compete. You laugh a lot and are really generous. Total extrovert — you’re the life of the party. But you are also pretty classy.

Double Chocolate Chunk
You share many characteristics with the chocolate chip lovers, but you’re way more extreme. You do whatever you want and just don’t give a damn.





Mint Chocolate Chip
You’re smart and kind of quiet. Your tastes are refined. And you are stubborn.



Rocky Road
You’re the boss of everyone and are used to people doing what you say.






Strawberry
You’re young at heart and very thoughtful. You don’t jump into
unknown situations and love tradition. You’re committed in your relationships, although it takes you a long time to get to that point because you are kind of shy.

Vanilla
You my friend are not vanilla. You are daring and experiment with a lot of new things, taking high risks and setting huge goals for yourself. You are sure of yourself and don’t fall for trends just because they’re trends. And you’re stubborn. A million people could jump off a bridge and try to convince you to stop liking vanilla ice cream and you won’t do it.





Coffee
You’re lively, passionate, and pretty impulsive. You start things all the time and don’t finish them because you get bored easily and sometimes have a hard time focusing.


Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough
You do what you feel like doing basically all the time, regardless of what your work schedule is or what other people think. You plan stuff for your friends and get them psyched to follow your lead. Your philosophy is, “Why not?” And you’ll try anything once.




Sorbet
You’re a liar. You don’t ‘like’ sorbet. You’re on a diet.

5 Signs You’re Probably Being Too Picky

Everyone is entitled to try to find a relationship that really works for them, and if you haven’t found it yet, you should keep looking until you do. Its important to remember that a relationship that works for you might be as much about you changing as him or her meeting your criteria.
But have you ever heard someone be like; "His name is Mike. Been down that road. Mikes are bad news." ... Or "He used the wrong “to” in a text message."  Typos happen.
You say you have a “type,” but are unable to elaborate on your type’s defining characteristics ? You often have decided that there won’t be a second date before you go on the first ? 

You've never dated anyone who didn't have an “annoying” laugh?
You are always the reject-or and never the rejectee. Except that one time when your date was being too picky. Which doesn't count ?
You've often said “He’s/She’s a little too… (insert gesture, noise and/or facial expression). You know what I mean?”
You know - and your friends tell you too - that you are smart, attractive and good at your work. But despite so many obvious qualities, you are still single. Even though you never wanted to settle down to a quiet married life, perhaps you wonder now and then if you are going wrong somewhere. Perhaps it lies in the huge checklist of must-haves that you consult before deciding to date anyone. So read these signs and find out if you are being too picky with dating.

Your checklist hasn't change in the last five years.
When you started dating you probably had a list of all the kinds of guys you wouldn't be caught dead with, like somebody who wore green. But if the all-important list hasn't been edited in the last five years, you are probably holding on to rather skewed notions of what is important in a partner. Try to understand that priorities change over time and what mattered terribly when you very young should not continue to hold your current priorities hostage. At this stage of your life examine what you really need from a relationship and stick to that. This will not only prevent you from being picky about unnecessary things but will help you to be clear on what exactly are your expectations from a potential partner.

You cannot look beyond the physical.
While almost everyone agrees that beauty is only skin-deep, still many potential relationships fall victim to excuses like “he is not tall enough” or “he weighs on the heavier side”. If you keep refusing dates solely on the basis of what a person looks like, you are pretty soon going to run out of choices. This is because no one guy is that perfect. 

You focus on the non-essentials.
It is a good thing to be choosy especially if you are looking for a long term relationship. But rather than rejecting a potential date for inconsequential things like the weird way he laughs or the terrible old-fashioned watch he has on, focus on what you actually want in a partner like common aspirations for the future or the ability to take mature decisions. People are looking at the wrong things; they are too picky about the things that are not important and not enough about the things that are.

You are waiting for magic.
Lots of women pay only a cursory glance at potential partners before declaring that “he just does not attract me”. While sexual magnetism is definitely a plus in relationship it is not the only thing or even the first thing you should look for. Qualities like compassion, mutual compatibility and emotional maturity are equally if not more important if you want your partner to be there after the initial thrill is gone. This is not to say that you should give up on passion or chemistry but only that the prospect of a good relationship would not hit you like a bolt of lightning as soon you walk up to your date and that you have to at least give it a chance to develop.

You give no time for a person to reveal his character.
What you see on an online dating profile is merely the objective characteristics of a potential date – that he is just five feet seven and is wearing a bow tie. If this is enough to make you reject him, hold on. Can you really decide if these are enough to make him bad relationship material? Unless you give this guy a chance to meet you the second time, how can you know that he has a great way with kids and that you both share certain basic moral values. These subjective qualities can only emerge in two or more encounters and should you happen to discount a guy on the basis of mere objective qualities, you may be letting a potential relationship slip through your picky fingers.

There is nothing wrong in setting high standards while looking for a partner. After all if you want a relationship to stand the test of time, you are entitled to check for mutual compatibility and sexual chemistry. The problem occurs when you confuse the non-essentials with what is actually important and tend to waste too many opportunities focusing on the superficial while losing out on the ones which may make for a meaningful relationship.

5 Signs You're in the Friend Zone

The story goes like this: You meet a nice lady-person in whom you have interest. She's the best. She's hilarious. And you can tell her everything. But does she feel the same way? She wants to hang out with you all the time and she feels comfortable talking to you about anything, but don't fall victim to misreading her signals as flirtation and end up in an awkward situation. Sure, she is great in every way and you have what you think is good chemistry. But you are confused about whether or not she likes you. You finally get up the courage to make a move and BAM… she says, “Oh, but I've always considered you just a friend.” The painful words echo in your ears… just a friend… just a friend… just a friend. If only there was a way to prevent such humiliation. Of course, these will vary person to person, but here are some indicators and what to do about them before you make a move.

She talks to you about other guys she’s seeing.
 In a way: duh — this is a big sign. In another way, she might be gauging your reaction to see if you show signs of jealousy so it’s important to look for subtlety. Is she talking about how other guys she’s dating are jerks or is she talking to you about how she really likes one particular guy? If it’s the former, you might not be in the friend zone. If it’s the latter, it’s best to be a good friend and be happy for her.

When you invite her out, she invites other people along. 
You ask her to a movie, thinking it will be a one-on-one thing, but she invites several other friends. That’s a classic friend zone move. If she likes you, she will make time to be alone with you. Unless she likes you so much and is so shy that she’s afraid to be alone with you, in which case, see where she sits when you’re in a group. Does she share the couch with you, sit next to you at the bar/in the movie/at the diner? See if she’s really interested in what you’re doing when you’re out in a group.
The two of you have a few drinks together and she still doesn't show any interest, she doesn't make a move and still rejects your subtle flirting, you’re in the friend zone.
She doesn't make any attempt with her psychical appearance when you see her.
When you like someone, you try to look your best for them. When you are just friends with someone, you can let them see you at your most relaxed or least done up. Even people who are very low maintenance will make some kind of effort if they like you. No effort = no attraction.

There is absolutely no physical contact.
When you like someone, your brain makes you touch them. It’s just how it is. If you touch her arm when you’re talking to her and she pulls away, you are in the friend zone. If she doesn't quite pull away but never ever touches you in return, you’re also in the friend zone. If she’s a really animated sort who touches everyone’s arm when she talks, you’ll have to follow your gut on this one and understand what kind of touch it was. Watch how she touches someone she’s not attracted to and see if she touches you the same way.
As hard as it may sound, you have to pull back. You have to give her time to miss you. You have to be less available, less interested. If she keeps contacting you, tell her you’re busy. This is human nature: people are attracted to the pursuit. No one likes a sure thing. Don’t ice her out completely or be mean but make sure she knows that you have other things going on besides her. She’ll either come around or not. If she does, bless you both. If not, accept it gracefully, put her in your own dang friend zone and ask her to hook you up with a friend of hers or be your wing-man at a social gathering.